Tag Archives: mom life

I yelled at my child in public.. And I’m not sorry for it.

My silly, strong willed, amazing little man ❤️

I have a very strong willed 2 year old, who will test his boundaries no matter who is around. 

I believe selective hearing begins at birth, or at least it certainly seems like this with my son. Everywhere we go he will test his boudaries, quietly at first, then full blown tantrum over a kinder egg. The worst is when you try to leave somewhere, just leaving the house is a chore. I get Abby into her car seat all ready and get everyone to the stairs, he then proceeds to close the gate on me and says “bye mommy I’ll miss you”.. Like I’m just going to leave him there. So it takes raising my voice (after asking nicely 4-5 times) before he will even come down the stairs to get his shoes and jacket on. Then I take him outside to get in the car. Ethan adores snow so he walks around and plays with the snow so I put Abby in the car and then ask him to get in the car, which he ignores until I physically get him or turn into monster mom again. So before I even get to a store or locations I’ve already had to yell twice, at least. Once I get somewhere I always get a cart because dealing with 2 children is difficult on a good day, and Ethan hates being contained so if I’m not quick he gets pissy and starts yelling and crying for no reason, then of course we hit the kinder eggs and his whole life just crumbles if he doesn’t get that kinder egg… Try telling an already pissed off child they cannot have a kinder egg… I would rather wash a cat. So through listening to him crying “mommy egg” for 5 minute and his not-listening to my “Ethan quiet please” he eventually gets yelled at again. But this time it’s more public than the earlier times and a lot of the times I think back and feel a little guilty for doing it, but I know my own child, if I could talk civilly to him and he would listen I would, unfortunately I have to turn into monster mom before he even looks my way most days. It’s because of this that when I overhear a mom yelling at their child in the supermarket or Walmart, I relate to that mother and I personally want to give her a high five so she knows that she’s not alone or a horrible parent for doing that. 

Now I also have given in to my child, more times than I care to admit. I am a mother of two, one who just cries because she’s a baby and I expect that, and one who cries and yells and constantly says “mommy mommy mommy” to the point I wish my name was anything else. So when we are out and he wants a kinder egg and is tantruming for it, I have given it to him. Earlier that day I probably dealt with  at least 4 loads of poop, fussy teething baby, Ethan getting on my very last nerve, and the house is definitely up to your eyeballs in mess. So I give in. I am not sorry for that. Those 2 minutes he is eating that kinder egg are quiet, amazingly quiet that I can for once think clearly and breathe. I am sure there are moms out there that never give in, but I hate wine and I do not have that will power. 

No matter how many times he makes me want to pull my hair out, all he has to do is smile once and I’m melted. He made me a mom and no matter how difficult he makes that some days, he is one of the major loves of my life, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Advertisements

Dinosaurs and High Maintenance

My sleepy little dinosaur lover 😍

Ok. So you have to understand my 4 month old to figure out why screaming because she rolled onto her belly in bed was tragic and unnecessary at 4:30am… 
Abby can roll from belly to back and back to belly. But, like her brother, she doesn’t want to do these things, only when convenient to her. Like you could put her on her belly and she will move around for an hour no issue, then she gets angry or rolls to her back, most times she gets angry and just lies there face into the play at screaming because she’s clearly too high maintenance to roll herself 🙄. Just so you know, no I don’t give in the moment she cries, she will literally lye there bawling with snot coming out of her nose before I go and get her most days. Other days, well I’ve probably been listening to Ethan yell and scream and say mommy all day that I just don’t have the patience to listen to her cry for no reason. Doesn’t make me a bad mom in anyway. 

Anyways back to the story. So my daughter, 4:30 A.M.! Decided to roll onto her belly in bed, which is fine, except for this high maintenance thing where she started screeching to get off her belly. And it’s 4:30 in the morning, I’m certainly not up to listening to her pterdactyl voice screaming through the the monitor, so I go in and roll her over and tuck her in again and go back to bed… Or so I thought, she proceeded to talk, make little screams, and enjoy life until Ethan woke up crying at 6am… Had a poop done… So I changed him and put him back to bed… Abby was still awake so I figured I would give her some food to settle her down, apparently it did the opposite and she is still in bed, wide awake, grunting, crying, talking, and probably pooping. Oh did I mention Ethan hasn’t gone back to bed either? “Tay Roar” lol.

So Ethan got a new addition to his dinosaur family yesterday, a large plastic triceratops, which he had to have a nap with on the way home from lab city yesterday. I think his love of dinosaurs is adorable, and I encourage it by buying them and even making sure the fruit snacks I get are dinosaur shaped. The only place dinosaurs are not allowed is in his bedroom because I am convinced he will never sleep! If he wakes up looking for them then he would definitely not sleep lol. Even right now he is sitting on the couch holding a dinosaur watching Mike the knight lol. 

And I feel like I need to say something nice about Abby where I just regard on her earlier haha. Outside of this no sleeping bullshit she’s like the perfect baby. She had her audiology appointment yesterday morning, she’s completely normal, and she just sat there laughing and talking with the receptionist, it was adorable! And she Was so good on the drive yesterday, barely even freaked out. And it was 6hours of driving so freaking out is completely understandable for a 4 month old.

Today, I have two goals: get a shower and attempt to sleep if and when the other two are sleeping at the same time… So I’ll def get a shower but I’ll have to wait until bedtime tonight to get the sleep part. Most days I just try to get from sun up to sun down without any injuries and with everyone relatively happy and healthy. Lol

Anyways, Abby’s still awake and Ethan’s up dancing to paw patrol, Alex is leaving for work in a couple minutes, then I’m thinking its a quick shower then finally getting Abby out of bed… Unless she’s finally  fallen asleep, to which I have to strongly doubt lol.
Later taters!