Birthday Parties and being sick.Β 

Ethan eating ice cream and cake 😍

Being sick is the worst, luckily tylonel complete and an awesome husband are making this flu easier. In a way I lucked out by having the flu on a weekend, hubby’s off work so if I need to go lye down or a break he takes over without an issue. I find there are three types of mothers when it comes to parenting, there is the “does everything mother” who just does everything, not necessarily because she has to, she just does it because it would be done faster if she did it. Second we have the 50/50 mother. This mother equally shares responsibilities with the father, pretty much the best way to be if you ask me. That’s if you can be that person. Finally the 3rd mother is the do little mother, these children are generally raised by other parent figures such as grandparents. Now in now way am I including those single mom, or moms who bust their asses working to provide a life for their child. These moms definitely fall under a “do everything” mom. 

Generally I am a do everything mom. Without hesitation I jump into everything and get it done asap (except laundry.. that may stay in the dryer for a day or two haha). However a do everything mom needs to know how to be a 50/50 or even a do nothing mom when they need it. We all get sick, we all need to get better. We need our sleep and our “sanity” time. That’s generally why we have significant others and/or nanny and poppy, you need to know when to take a break. So today I have dropped down to a 50/50 parent. Alex woke up with the kids and let me sleep in, he took care of feeding them and their diapers, and he even took “Ethan” duty at the birthday party we were to today. 

Let’s talk about birthday parties with 2 kids for a minute. Generally Ethan’s invited to parties and Abby comes along with. Which is awesome because alex does Ethan duty and I take care of Abby, or we switch. Birthday parties without alex there are generally shit shows lol. Especially if you have more than 1 under 5. Try chasing two children who go in opposite directions. You can’t. So those moms I commend you and will probably join ranks soon enough haha. 

I love kids birthday parties! Ethan gets such a thrill going on the bouncy castle and playing with toys 😍. Abby will love it too when she gets older, I can’t wait. Also I just love children, I’m done having children, but I just love them! They are so facinating, they way they are learning and interacting with each other and adults. It’s proven so far that kids do act differently when talking with adults over their peers, and even someone as young as Ethan is showing this. Now when it comes to his interaction with us it’s different than other adults. For example, we say no and he throws a tantrum and lies on the floor. When he hears no from another adult he listens, and other kids say no he generally listens unless he’s already worked up too much, in that case only a stern conversation and time out will work. 

Anyways I’m going to end this here cause I need a nap and pug cuddle. 

Later taters!

😘

Dinosaurs and High Maintenance

My sleepy little dinosaur lover 😍

Ok. So you have to understand my 4 month old to figure out why screaming because she rolled onto her belly in bed was tragic and unnecessary at 4:30am… 
Abby can roll from belly to back and back to belly. But, like her brother, she doesn’t want to do these things, only when convenient to her. Like you could put her on her belly and she will move around for an hour no issue, then she gets angry or rolls to her back, most times she gets angry and just lies there face into the play at screaming because she’s clearly too high maintenance to roll herself πŸ™„. Just so you know, no I don’t give in the moment she cries, she will literally lye there bawling with snot coming out of her nose before I go and get her most days. Other days, well I’ve probably been listening to Ethan yell and scream and say mommy all day that I just don’t have the patience to listen to her cry for no reason. Doesn’t make me a bad mom in anyway. 

Anyways back to the story. So my daughter, 4:30 A.M.! Decided to roll onto her belly in bed, which is fine, except for this high maintenance thing where she started screeching to get off her belly. And it’s 4:30 in the morning, I’m certainly not up to listening to her pterdactyl voice screaming through the the monitor, so I go in and roll her over and tuck her in again and go back to bed… Or so I thought, she proceeded to talk, make little screams, and enjoy life until Ethan woke up crying at 6am… Had a poop done… So I changed him and put him back to bed… Abby was still awake so I figured I would give her some food to settle her down, apparently it did the opposite and she is still in bed, wide awake, grunting, crying, talking, and probably pooping. Oh did I mention Ethan hasn’t gone back to bed either? “Tay Roar” lol.

So Ethan got a new addition to his dinosaur family yesterday, a large plastic triceratops, which he had to have a nap with on the way home from lab city yesterday. I think his love of dinosaurs is adorable, and I encourage it by buying them and even making sure the fruit snacks I get are dinosaur shaped. The only place dinosaurs are not allowed is in his bedroom because I am convinced he will never sleep! If he wakes up looking for them then he would definitely not sleep lol. Even right now he is sitting on the couch holding a dinosaur watching Mike the knight lol. 

And I feel like I need to say something nice about Abby where I just regard on her earlier haha. Outside of this no sleeping bullshit she’s like the perfect baby. She had her audiology appointment yesterday morning, she’s completely normal, and she just sat there laughing and talking with the receptionist, it was adorable! And she Was so good on the drive yesterday, barely even freaked out. And it was 6hours of driving so freaking out is completely understandable for a 4 month old.

Today, I have two goals: get a shower and attempt to sleep if and when the other two are sleeping at the same time… So I’ll def get a shower but I’ll have to wait until bedtime tonight to get the sleep part. Most days I just try to get from sun up to sun down without any injuries and with everyone relatively happy and healthy. Lol

Anyways, Abby’s still awake and Ethan’s up dancing to paw patrol, Alex is leaving for work in a couple minutes, then I’m thinking its a quick shower then finally getting Abby out of bed… Unless she’s finally  fallen asleep, to which I have to strongly doubt lol.
Later taters!

Potty training and Poonamis

 

This morning I woke up to Ethan crying at 7am to get out of bed. I was not ready to human at that point so I took him and my iPad into our bed till about 8:30, which is a completely acceptable human time, and Abby woke up. Lately Abby has been waking up full of poop so when I went into her room, and the unmistakable smell of crap wafted towards my face, I was not surprised. So like anyday I go and start changing her, initially I notice she didn’t poop as much as normal so I just assumed I would be changing her again later in the morning, that was until I was wiping her clean. I lifted up her legs and the poop just kept on going, right up her back, way past the diaper barrier. For some odd reason she is finding this hilarious and keeps trying to roll over in it, which is slowly getting it everywhere, so I have to use ninja mom tactics to ensure this did not happen while I was cleaning it all up. 
All while this was going on, Ethan was sitting on the toilet “showing his dinosaur” how he does his pee and poop. So Ethan is 2 years and 4 months old, we have decided since he was two that we should start potty training by getting him used to the potty and such. So far he seems to think that pooping and peeing are the same thing so he poops and pees on the potty no issue, as long as it’s the pee that comes from forcing out a poop. Oh and did I mention that he doesn’t go voluntarily, nor does he tell you he has to go… which leads to fairly interesting encounters like the following:

The other day Ethan must have fallen asleep with poop in his diaper (went down for a nap and pooped just before he fell asleep) so when he woke up I had to change him. Poor thing had a bad bum because of it and the poop was like dried on in some places. So I got a warm facecloth to get it off without making him bum any worse, since he was already crying because of him diaper rash. While getting the face cloth he yells out “Mommy Water” in this very unhappy voice. I thought he just meant he heard the water so when I went in to find his already bad bum sitting in a pile of his own pee, my heart broke but I tried to use it all as a learning experience. “Ethan honey, that’s called pee, we are only supposed to pee in the potty. And your bum hurts because you pooped in your diaper instead of your potty”… yeah that learning experience didn’t work lol.

When it comes to potty training, I love my child, but he’s a little shit haha. Multiple times of the day he will come over to me, stare me down, and just pee in front of me, then laugh and run away. The worst is poops.. he’ll come over, purposely get your attention, then smirk as he poops, then when he is done he’ll grab his diaper, yell poop and run away with a big ol smile on his face… I love my child, I love my child haha.

I have presently been up for about 40 minutes now because I gave birth to a tiny pterodactyl who randomly woke up quarter to 3 to play me the song of her people. Generally mothers wake at the tiniest sound of their child talking in the nights, most times she’s soft spoken but tonight was the complete opposite. To the point I changed her diaper, reset her sleep sheep and decided to stay on the couch for a little bit to see if she would kick a fuss for food because when she’s talking away like this, I can’t get back to sleep anyways so why not write a blog! Worst thing is I have to go to Lab City in the morning so I’ll be exhausted allllllll day and because of the messed up sleep schedules, I’ll be up later with the kids and miss out on more sleep 😩. Oh the joys of motherhood… is it Saturday yet? Oh only Wednesday… I still have 3 full days of negative sleep before my husband can take over for a couple hours so I can nap? Ugh.. 

Oh crap.. Ethan’s waking up now too… of course they would work together.. come on kids, coffee doesn’t even work on momma anymore, I need sleep to function like a human being! Oh…. they don’t care.. gotcha…

Anyways I’m gone to feed a little one and pray that works at getting her back to sleep. 
Later taters!

I love my kids, I love my husband, I love my life… at least most of the time

My heart, my littlest loves

The love you have for a child is that much more intense then the love you have for your significant other or even your parents and siblings. And it’s a good thing to because after the 50th “Mommy Blue Tay Roar” and teething baby cries, you need something that keeps you going back through all of that. 

I have a beautiful little 4.5 month old little girl and a handsome 2 year old little boy. I have a husband that loves me and pugs who not only give the best cuddles, but also put up with everything Ethan can throw at them (they’re pretty much saints). 

I’m going to Florida for the first time in my life this March and I’m beyond excited, but nervous about travelling with kids. Partially afraid air Canada is going to lose their car seats..because for some reason air Canada absolutely sucks at dealing with people’s luggage. I think Ethan is going to love it! We even have our own pool at the house we are renting, he’s going to have so much fun. I hope Abby does as well. 

2017 feels so weird. There is no major life event going on this year, seems like we are just on autopilot… the last 3 years have been so crazy that it’s kinda looking like it may be dull. 2014- had Ethan, 2015-got married, 2016-had Abigail… I just hope it’s a good year and not bad. Part of me really wants to either go back to school, or get a job. Unfortunately up here childcare is $50/day, 52 weeks a yeah, and for 2 kids.. I’m looking at $26,000 a year ish for daycare.. so whatever job I get would have to make more than that, or would need to be a stay at home job so I can also take care of my kids. And when you live in the middle of nowhere, both are hard to obtain. 

School is always an option.. but the only thing you can do by distance is pretty much office and admin, and I really do not want to be a secretary. Don’t get me wrong, nothing wrong with that, I think I would even make a good secretary.. just not what I picture myself doing. 

I could always open a dayhome… $40-$45/day and include meals.. turn the basement into a daycare like area (not like it would change much from what it presently is). The kids would need to be ok with animals, nap time would be difficult but I could find a way to make it work. Put the pack n play in our room, get a cheap toddler bed for older children. I’d probably prefer if they don’t nap but that generally isn’t an option because most people are going back to work with a 1 year old and those kids still need naps. I have no problem taking kids for the day, like when their parent(s) need to go out of town. 

I could open a doggie daycare.. look after people’s dogs when they go on vacation.. may be a little difficult with both kids tho. Could sell scentsy, epicure, Avon, but people here already sell it all and it would just be kinda jerkish to try and outsell someone who has the client base and friendships in such a small town. 

Or I could do business and admin and just become a secretary and like the people I work with over the job I do.. I did a secretary-like job when I was in school. I just didn’t like the repetitive nature and constant computer work. 

Or I could housewife.. which admittedly I am good at, but doesn’t give me the sense of self satisfaction I think working would give me. 

I have time to figure this all out. 

Guess this ends today’s blog. 
Later Taters!! 

Mommy of two

August 19, 2016 my life changed forever and I became a mom of two. You never really understand what that means until you have two yourself. Constantly tired, one keeps you up in the nights while the other gets you up early and makes sure you stay awake, and slightly guilty your first doesn’t get the same attention anymore, especially when you are feeding the new baby and he’s throwing a tantrum at your feet because you can’t read him a book. 

This morning Abby got me up an hour before her normal feeding time, she normally takes an hour to eat, so this meant 7:30 she was back asleep. Ethan was asleep and Alex went back to sleep in seconds but unfortunately I couldn’t get to sleep, once I’m up, I’m up. I may nap later today but if Ethan’s napping I generally like to spend the time with Abby because she is already growing too quickly and I really don’t want to miss out on any time with her this young. 

So I bought winter boots for Ethan and about 8:30 I gave up and came out on the couch. Generally Ethan’s awake by 7:30 so it was strange for him to still be asleep, I certainly wasn’t complaining because I was actually able to sit down and have a HOT coffee, a luxury often taken forgranted by those without a toddler strapped to their legs, and listened to the rain on the window. Today is going to be like every other day, add in some laundry, but mainly meals, tidying up after my tiny toddler tornado, and feeding Abigail. Joined weight watchers last week… Weigh day is Tuesday for me so I’ll be sure to update you on that Tuesday, I just know birthday cakes eat a lot of your points up lol. 

Anyways this is a short post today, check back in again Tuesday unless something else happens. 

Later taters😘

My Pregnancy with my little girl β€οΈ

My two pregnancies have been so different in many ways and similar in only a few.

I have been very fortunate to not have any morning sickness on either child, however for the first trimester I had bleeding on both babies. Ethan’s cleared up after the first trimester but this one was different and the cause was an infection which was cleared up by 17/18 weeks. Both babies wanted me to eat fruits, however she seems to be wanting more sweets now, which is not good for either of us haha. 

My pregnancy with Ethan was a lot easier, I never had the aches and pains, I could walk kilometres without needing a heat pack afterwards, and I could do any task without pain or pressure. My little girl is very different. 

Let’s start with the hips shall we? I had a section with Ethan, because he was breeched, so I never experienced any hip pain with him. I don’t even think he dropped before he was hauled out. Since about 20 weeks on her I cannot sleep without agony, my hips are burning and aching to the point no matter how I lye there is no relief. Even when I walk around I need to catch myself on something because I’ll get a random sharp pain that feels like my hip is gonna pop out. 

Back pain, oh holy lower back pain. This is constant but even worse when pressure is applied to my back. It’s not as bad as the hips unless pressure is applied, otherwise I can usually ignore it unless I have been out walking or doing a lot.

Walking is now not fun, I do it because it’s exercise and promoted during pregnancy, but man does it hurt my hips, little sharp pains in each hip and it feel like it’s always that moment the lil one decides she wants to be like a lead weight. 

For the past couple of weeks the most different sensation I’ve felt is when I squat down to help Ethan with something or play with him, literally feels like she wants to come now, like a lead pressure pushing downwards, hurts sooooo much and it’s so uncomfortable! 

Let’s talk about the public differences of a second pregnancy..

  1. People no longer worry about you. First pregnancy people would open doors, carry your stuff, and go out of their way to help you. Now, nope lol. You gotta be super mom, carry that screaming toddler under one arm and wrestle them during those diaper changes. All while gymnastics is being performed in your uterus.
  2. Your toddler really doesn’t care if you want to nap or rest, he wants to run around and have you chase him, or even better, he wants to be thrown into the air multiple times. Of course this has to be done from a standing position because sitting down isn’t as fun.
  3. You are super mom because if not no one would be fed, have clean clothes, and the house would be a pigsty. I admit sometimes I lose this battle and nap when Ethan naps, instead of cleaning, because I just can’t do it.
  4. If you have one under 2 like I do, you will become a human jungle Jim, and no matter how much you try to explain it they will step all over you for cuddles, hugs, play time, and even just to make you forget they did something bad
  5. Second or third or tenth pregnancies go quicker than your first because you have so much to do and a little one(s) that require your attention. 
  6. You have the same concerns you had on your first pregnancy, just less time to worry about them. 

I am appreciating this pregnancy more. My little girl kicks and punches a lot more than Ethan ever did, so it’s nice when I finally sit down to feel those kicks, even if they are directed at my cervix 80% of the time. 

I am excited to see Ethan with her. I know for the first bit he will be jealous but it’s all about including them in your activities and asking for their help. He will love his sister and he will be a great big brother. 

I cannot wait to have her in my arms, but at the same time I can because this is possibly my last pregnancy and I want to enjoy every last kick, hiccup, and craving. 

Anyways that’s my update so far. Otherwise I’m unemployed and enjoying mommy life, the diapers, snotty noses, and everything else :). 

Till next time!

Later taters!

The Tables are Bare, but my Heart is Full

When you come to my house there is one thing you will notice in my living areas. My tables are free of anything sentimental. There are no photos of Ethan, my family, or even little cute items with “a house is not a home without a pug” or “my hubby works while I shop”. The reason I have none of this on my tables is happy, not sad. I have a baby finally discovering the world around him. Picking himself up and pulling stuff off the tables. He’s much more precious to me than those items, for now my tables will remain bare.. But not forever, just for now :).